Haiti Mission, Inc.

Rebecca Claire Fakier - April 29, 1995-July 18, 2003

Rebecca was born on April 29, 1995. She was a very welcome addition to her two brothers, Edward and Mark. Everything about Rebecca’s first six years was completely normal. She attended St. Bernadette School and was an excellent student. She loved learning and she loved making A’s! I can still remember how indignant she would get when we would open her test folder on Tuesdays and find a B in it! In the first week of March of 2002 she had a viral illness, fever, sore throat, usual stuff. We never even went to the doctor. However, because of the fever she was unable to go to school for three straight days. Very unusual for her and for anyone that has dealt with makeup school work; you know that you work really hard to get them back to class as soon as possible. Finally, she was able to return, though I must say that she enjoyed her time at home with me very much. We were very close. On Saturday she attended the birthday party of one of her good friends but later that night she began to complain of her neck hurting. I asked if maybe she landed funny on it in the space walk that was at the party, but she said she didn’t think so. Monday morning came and though I thought that she felt warm, she got up with no complaints and so because she had missed three days the week before, I sent her off to school with her brothers. I figured that if she started feeling poorly or her fever got any higher that the school would call me. I heard nothing from the school all day and picked her and her brothers up as usual just before three. I pulled her hair up into a high pony tail, it was quite long at the time, and she changed for soccer practice. She participated in practice with no problems and then we went directly to piano lessons. When we got home that night she complained about her neck again but she wasn’t acting as though she felt unwell. She was piddling around in her dad’s office and made the same complaint to him. He pulled her close and then came immediately out of his office alarmed by what he saw. Even though I had pulled her hair up into a pony tail, there was no evidence earlier of large glands on the back of her neck. When they walked into the kitchen, suddenly they were obvious from several steps away. He showed me Rebecca’s neck and asked if I had noticed these earlier. We quickly talked about the illness from the previous week, the slight fever that morning and David, being a physician, began to think that she had developed abscesses in the glands on the back of her neck. He called the CT suite to see if they were busy and off they went to get a CT of her neck. I stayed at home and worried about the need to be in the hospital on IV antibiotics for an abscess and yet more missed school time. I put the boys to bed. Even more time passed and I began to get more and more worried as it seemed to be taking way too long.

I remember calling our friend and Rebecca’s doctor, Mark Walker and talking to him about what he thought she might have. Then the finally came home. David kissed Rebecca tenderly, thanked her for being so good, and asked me to put her to bed. As I was doing that I overheard him place a call to another friend who is a physician, Raul Doria. I thought that that was truly not good but could not imagine what was happening. When I came downstairs, David asked me to sit down. He showed me the CT pictures of the huge mass in her chest and said that he didn’t know what our baby had but that it was not good.

By the next morning after a series of frantic phone calls and an almost sleepless night, we were on our way to Oschner to see Dr. Raphael Ducos of the pediatric oncology department. Right away he was concerned about a cancer called neuroblastoma. We did some scans and preliminary workups but knew that it was a bone marrow exam that was needed to give us a more definitive answer. There was initially cause for hope as her bone marrow came back negative. A pediatric surgeon came to see us and was quite sure that the large tumor in her chest was actually a benign tumor called ganglioneuroma. One day later, we had our answer. It was unfortunately, the very malignant neuroblastoma. This is where things began to get really hard, a dark tunnel, with almost constant worry on our part and constant pain on Rebecca’s part. We stayed in New Orleans for almost three weeks with no end in sight to the surgical complication that Rebecca developed called a Chylothorax. This is common in chest surgeries, absolutely no fault of the surgeon and whereas many recover on their own with this, Rebecca was not going to do so. She was losing 1200 ccs of fluid per day from now two chest tubes and in horrific pain from the medications that caused pancreatitis. We were desperate to find a solution to the problem and that came in the form of a friend suggesting that we call a friend of theirs that was an adult oncologist in NYC at Sloan-Kettering Hospital. We kindly explained that we needed to solve the surgical issue before we could even think about the issue of her cancer, but the friend was insistent.   David called the man and they began to talk about Rebecca’s case. He strongly recommended a surgeon at Sloan, Michael LaQualglia, who does nothing but pediatric cancer resection. We contacted them, filled them in on the status of her case and within two days were boarding a med-evac flight to NYC. The thought of the surgeons having to go back in to do the repair was very difficult but it was the only way to move forward and even begin to address the issue of her cancer. Rebecca actually had her surgery on Good Friday. I thought at the time that it was the perfect day because I told Jesus that I felt as though I was in the tomb with him and that it was very dark. I could not imagine what we would do if this surgery was not successful. Just three weeks before I had a normal family and now I was looking at the possibility of losing one of my children. It was terrifying and incomprehensible to me. That night as I watched the pleura-vac fill with fluid again, I remember saying to Jesus that I never before knew what people meant when they said to turn a problem over to you but I was so incapable of thinking of what the future held that I gladly put the outcome in His hands. That night I slept well and was able to face the next day. When David came in and saw the amount of fluid, he also began to worry. I asked him not to talk to me about it and I explained that I had put it all in Jesus’ hands and that whatever happened I knew He was in control. It was not until 4pm on Saturday that the surgeon came in and told us that he was delighted with how things turned out. He explained that the fluid we were seeing was mostly the antibiotics that he had poured into her chest cavity! What a relief that was and for the first time in what seemed like forever, we could begin to move forward with treatment for Rebecca. At that point I was filled with hope and very grateful for Jesus’ presence on that very dark Good Friday.

But that was me, Rebecca was not so filled with hope, she was just angry. As she recovered from her surgery and we moved to the Ronald McDonald House, it became more and more apparent. She would actually huff and puff whenever we went to Mass and actually turn her back on the altar. One Sunday, David and I talked to her about her anger. I asked her if she was angry at God. Her reply was swift. “YES”! I asked her why specifically and she told us that she had asked God after she was sick the week before her diagnosis if she could stay home with me. She then said, “Is this what He thinks I meant!!!???? Why did he do this to ME?????” I was blown away by her clarity as well as her anger. She never considered as so many adults do that there might not be a god, because how could a loving god do this to a child. No, she was certain about the presence of God but very angry that he had chosen her to suffer so. She felt all alone, as though she was the only one made to suffer so. I asked her to look around. She was not alone in her battle with cancer. In fact, there at Sloan/Ronald McDonald House, she was surrounded by children from all over the world that were going through the same thing as her. That seemed to open her eyes. I won’t say that her anger evaporated on the spot and that she didn’t struggle with the reason for her suffering but it was the beginning of her choosing to rely on God rather than be angry at him.

There were so many good days in those 16 months and so many, many blessings that only the reality of cancer can bring. When Rebecca felt good there was no limit to her energy, walking with us all over the city, a wonderful city that provided so many distractions from treatment. Each week a new friend or family member of mine would journey up to NYC to stay with us when David couldn’t be there. Rebecca, when she felt well, loved nothing better than to show the city off to people who had never been there. She so much appreciated all those visitors. It made the dark times so much easier.

It would take a book to detail the entire journey, but it was evident as her treatment continued that nothing we were doing was slowing down the disease by more than a few months. There were many events and people that sustained Rebecca and us during those days. One song in particular became her theme song, a beautiful song from the animated movie, “Joseph, King of Dreams”. Here is the link to the you tube video from the movie.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oL6HlzQZLo

Better than I

I thought I knew what’s right, I thought I had the answers

I thought I’d chose the surest road, but that road brought me here.

So I put up a fight and told you how to help me

Now, just when I have given up, the truth is coming clear

You know better than I, you know the way

I’ve let go the need know why

For you know better than I

If this has been a test

I cannot see the reason

But maybe knowing I don’t know is part of getting through

I try to do what’s best

And faith has made it easy to see the best thing I can do is put my trust in you

For you know better than I, you know the way

I’ve let go the need to know why for you know better than I

I saw one cloud and thought it was the sky

I saw a bird and thought that I could follow

But it was you who taught that bird to fly

If I let you reach me, will you teach me

For you know better than I….

Rebecca always had a wonderful sense of herself and her abilities. She loved to learn and she loved to sing. She spent a lot of time singing in her days in NYC and even spent an entire day recording “Better than I” with the woman who came to Sloan to help kids with their school work. When we were told that all that could be done had been done and that we should take Rebecca home, she performed this song for the entire school at the final mass of what would have been her second grade year. I know that Rebecca internalized and lived out the words to that song.

I had several conversations with her in her last few days. Two stand out vividly and speak so highly of her complete faith. For the first story I have to backtrack a little.   When we were in the hospital once for about three weeks, her roommate was a boy of about 4 named Matthew Hendry. We both loved Matthew and his mother, Nadia, and enjoyed our time together. When Matthew felt bad, which was often, Nadia would have to lie in bed with him for hours on end while he twirled her hair between his little fingers. When he would finally fall asleep, Nadia would try to sneak out of the bed, just to get a break. Sometimes she was successful in this attempt and sometimes she wasn’t. When she was, however, she would whisper for Rebecca and me to tell Matthew that she just went to get a coke and that she would be right back. Over the course of those long weeks we helped her with this several times. It was not unusual for Matthew to cry a little and then ask a few worried questions about when she would return and then he would usually settle right down. Well, little Matthew died in March of 2003 and it was not long after that Rebecca asked me a question which blew me away. She said, “I don’t get heaven!” I asked her what she meant. She told me that she didn’t see how Matthew could possibly be happy in heaven because Nadia was that not there with him. After all she pointed out that he didn’t even really like to let her out of the bed to even get a coke! I always felt like the Holy Spirit was with me because the reply I gave her seemed to satisfy her completely. I told her that if a man lived to be 100 years old on earth, we considered him to be a really old man and that he had lived a very long life. I then asked her to imagine how long that must seem like to God. I asked her to remember that God had created the world many, many years before and that to God a human life, even a very long life, was like a second. So for Matthew, it will be just like when he used to fall asleep and when he woke up, she and I would tell him that Nadia would be back in a second and then he would be happy. She accepted that and asked no more questions. When we were in our last few days, one night she said to me, “I’m scared.” I started to say to her, “Remember how we talked about when Matthew died that to Matthew it would just seem like a second….” Well, she cut me right off and said, “Yeah, yeah, I know about that second thing but that is not what I’m scared about”. I asked what she was scared about and she said that she was worried that something would happen to David or me. I was so taken aback by that statement that all I could do was assure her that her dad and I were fine and that we would not be going anywhere. That relieved all fears and questions. I later realized that it was her way of saying that she would rather be the one going. She could imagine her leaving but she could not imagine living her life if either David or I were to die.   And in the end, in her last conversation with me, she asked if she was going to die. I told her that only God knew that and I was sure praying that He would leave her here with us. Her reply amazes me to this day. She said, “Oh, I hope I get to stay. I still have so much I want to do. I want to be a singer and a veterinarian and an actress”. No comment or thought at all about heaven - what it would be like. No thought as to if it actually existed or if she had been good enough in her life to go. It was clear that she accepted the reality of where she would be when she left; she just wasn’t ready yet to go. Her last days make faith easy for me. I want to be where she is.

There are just so many stories, so much which could be said. We know that Rebecca is alive and still has an impact on so many lives. One classmate of Rebecca’s was Hannah Hornsby. When Rebecca first got sick Hannah would pray that she would get well and come back to school. When Hannah saw her and realized just how sick Rebecca was she changed her prayer to asking that Rebecca not hurt and not be sick anymore. On the morning that Rebecca died, Hannah had an eye doctors appointment. They received the news in a phone call about her passing and Hannah, with a big smile realizes that Rebecca is in heaven and said, “she is not hurting anymore”. They go off to the appointment and for the first time ever, Hannah tells her mother that she doesn’t want to wear glasses anymore. Her mother thought this unusual as she has worn them since she was three (her prescription was +8) and they had never bothered her. Hannah’s mother jokingly said that she didn’t think that Rebecca had been in heaven long enough to pull off that miracle. Well the doctor walked in and began to examine her. Long story short - Hannah walked out of the office having been told that she no longer had to wear glasses. Hannah asked to come to Rebecca’s wake. She presented flowers and her glasses to David and me. To this day she still does not wear glasses.

Rebecca knew how to put her trust in God. We have learned many lessons from her, even after her death. I will leave you with an excerpt from a diary that she had. The entry was just before her last major surgery and she knew exactly what she was going to face in pain and recovery. She wrote, “I’m scared about my next surgery and I just want you to help me, God. If I promise to try my best, will you help me? I believe in you, it is hard to believe but I still do”. In her time with us, she was such a blessing and we thank God daily for having been fortunate enough to have had her for the time that we did.

The Miracle

The life of Rebecca Claire Fakier and the life of HMI have been a fascinating odyssey which has brought untold blessings to the families of Numero Deux, Ravine Sable and numerous other remote villages in Haiti.  As you may or may not know, July 18^th, 2003 was the day she entered Paradise and began working along with all the heavenly angels and saints to help the poor and needy here on earth.  For some reason, her main focus seems to be the children of Haiti and her main instrument to accomplish that seems to be Haiti Mission, Inc. (HMI)  During the month of July, Faie and I visited with Leah Hornsby and her daughter Hannah regarding their remarkable experience with Rebecca.  The following is that interview and their story.

The story of Hannah and Rebecca by Leah Hornsby (Hannah’s Mom)

Rebecca Claire Fakier and Hannah Hornsby were best friends in first grade at St. Bernadette School in Houma.  Their relationship was such that when Rebecca had to leave to receive treatments at Sloan Kettering Memorial Cancer Center in New York, Hannah promised to pray every day for her. When Rebecca returned home and Hannah saw her in such a debilitated condition, she was very upset that God had not answered her prayer.

On the morning after Rebecca died, Hannah had an eye appointment with a children’s specialist in Baton Rouge.  Hannah and I were running out the door and the phone rang with the news from a friend that Rebecca had passed.  I said “Thanks for calling” and when I turned around with tears in my eyes; Hannah had the biggest smile on her face and says, “Rebecca is in Heaven!” I said “yes, she is.” Hannah says still with a smile, sighing, “She is not hurting anymore.” 

When we arrived at the doctor’s office, while waiting for the doctor to come in, Hannah asks, “Mom, what do you think Rebecca is doing up there?”  I said, “Oh, probably playing, laughing and looking at how beautiful everything is.” 

(As a side note, Hannah had worn glasses since she was three years old.  Never once did she complain about them.  She didn’t really know life without them.  She was blind as a bat without them.  When she was first given glasses to wear they were +8 which is very strong.)

Out of the blue, Hannah says, “I don’t want to wear glasses anymore.”  Jokingly I said, “Girl, Rebecca hasn’t been up there that long to pull those kinds of strings.”  In walks the doctor.  While examining her, he asked her to take off her glasses.  Normally when Hanna would take off her glasses, one of her eyes would immediately turn in (lazy eye).  When she took them off this time, the doctor looks at her eyes, makes her follow a popsicle stick with a sticker on it and says, “her eyes are straight!”  I look up from the magazine that I was reading, not believing what I was hearing.  I look at her and sure enough HER EYES WERE STRAIGHT!  The doctor then asks her to read the letter chart on the wall which she had never been able to do without her glasses.  She begins to say every letter and every shape, every number large and small!  I could not believe what I was seeing and hearing.  He then dilated her eyes and still she could read it all without her glasses.  The Doctor then says, “She doesn’t need to wear glasses anymore.”  I was in complete shock!  Hannah was on cloud nine.

When we got home, a friend of mine called to tell me about  the funeral arrangements.  When I was discussing the arrangements with my husband John, I was concerned about how Hannah would take seeing Rebecca in the casket and seriously considered not taking her to the funeral.  She overheard our conversation and said, “No, I am going and I want to bring Mrs. Laura some flowers.”  So we went get flowers.  On the way to the wake, I looked in the back seat and Hannah was tying her glasses to the flowers!  I could not contain myself!  We get to the wake and I tell Hannah that we don’t have to go to the front that we can just sit in the back and pray.  She then asks me, “What is this line for?”  I said, “It’s a line to see Mr. David, Mrs. Laura, and Rebecca.  So, Hannah immediately says, “I have to give these flowers to Mrs. Laura and I want to tell Rebecca goodbye.”  So, we get in line and when she gets to David, he makes Hannah feel like she was the most important person there by scooping her up in his arms and saying, “Hannah! Thank you so much for coming!  If you ever need someone to talk to or need help with anything, you talk to Rebecca because she will always be listening.”  Hannah says, “I know!” and excitedly tells him and Laura the story about the eye doctor and shows him the flowers with her glasses attached.  Laura then takes Hannah and me to see Rebecca.  She placed the flowers with Hannah’s glasses next to Rebecca and showed Hannah all the pictures of the months Rebecca had spent in the hospital.  It could not have been more special for Hannah and I cannot thank the Fakiers enough for giving her that moment. 

Since Rebecca’s passing, I have taken Hannah to the eye doctor when I take her younger sister Madeline who has a similar condition as Hannah.  One of the strangest things is that when Hannah’s eyes are not dilated, she has 20/20 vision.  When they are dilated, she needs glasses to see.  Numerous doctors have been puzzled and say they have never seen anyone with such eye muscle control as Hannah has.  Thinking they would help her reduce the strain on her eyes, they prescribe glasses but Hannah never wants to wear them saying she sees better without them.  In 2013, when Hannah went to Dr. Eustice, a children’s specialist in New Orleans, he told her that she did not need glasses or contacts and did not need to have her vision checked again until she was 30.  

Rebecca and Hannah continue to be friends in a mystical and spiritual way.  There have been numerous events throughout Hannah’s life that she has come to realize that Rebecca is walking alongside her.  One of the most dramatic was that for many years Hannah did not know that Rebecca’s middle name was Claire yet she kept having Claire come into her life.  When she had to pick a Confirmation name, Claire was her choice.  When she went to a Faith Camp experience several years ago, she was assigned the St. Claire cabin.  All these moments have helped strengthen Hannah’s faith.  We will always be thankful for this special Angel that God has mysteriously and wonderfully put into our life.